too embarrassed to put it here
October 13, 2025 at 8:07:08 PM
haii hope youre having a good day!! but im gonna yap a bit ok? genuine question, but (how) can you identify as a boy and be a lesbian? it says that under the lesboy flag you put in your pronouns cc, i understand the term sapphic is mostly used for wlw's now but im stpid ive been trying to understand this for months.. is a sapphic that uses he him / they them pronouns considered a lesboy? as an agender lesboy you use he it pronouns and are attracted to non men? soooo as long as you arent a cisgender man that is attracted to non men/women specifically you can identify as a lesbian? CORRECT ME IF IM WRONG PLEASE. i understand using the term lesboy for butches/non binary/bigender/genderfluid and other folks and im doing my best at research to not sound stupid as i say this.. IM NOT TRYING TO COME OFF AS IGNORANT/MALICIOUS OKAY? this is coming from a 100% cis-ish? sapphic female and im just trying to understand my community better! it must be annoying getting messages like these and theres no need to leave this up on your ata ok? i know holy yap right. just genuinely trying to understand!! sending peace and love your way ok you're very valid im just stupid. bai bye take care






Replied on: October 14, 2025 at 9:08:55 PM
First, I want to say thank you for being so respectful about this! ^_^
To answer your question: I just prefer to use the term boy instead of girl and I identify more with boyhood while also being agender due to the lack of gender I feel a majority of the time. I'd look into 'https://queerdom.fandom.com/wiki/Lesboy' and just go over everything there, especially resources!
I wouldn't reallyyy include a sapphic in the lesboy label as the term is 'lesbian boy' and lesbian and sapphic are different from each other, but there is a sapphic equivalent called saphboy for what you've described.
Using He/Him or They/Them doesn't automatically make a person a lesboy or a saphboy. It's more about the person then anything If they don't want to use the term but still use they/them & he/him and identify with being a boy then that's that. If they do want to use the term and everything you said applies then, yes, they would be considered a lesboy or saphboy.
If you're not a full-on cisgender-man I don't see the issue with identifying as a lesbian. People have gotten wayyy too comfortable policing other people about their identity when they know nothing about the person, or how they feel about their gender. A lot of people see gender as this black and white concept but it's far more complex then that.
I don't think you're stupid for just wanting to understand, I hope you have a good day take care as well ^_^